Say It With These 3 Little Words!
When you finally realize you love you partner it’s a magical, wonderful feeling. To love someone means you’ve found a unique person with whom you share an uncommon bond of connection. Love encompasses such a wide range of positive and powerful emotional states, from a purest form of ethical goodness, the deepest personal friendship, to the simplest pleasures. The nature of love is such that it can be shared indiscriminately and without limitation – a state of unlimited and indiscriminate sharing of the love you feel for your partner. But just how do you actually love you partner? What do you need to do to show your significant other how much you love them?
The first step in loving someone is really just finding out what your intentions are. To say you love someone requires you to have some idea of what it is you’re feeling or thinking about when you make this declaration. You don’t necessarily have to describe all of the feelings you have, but you do need to be as clear and accurate as possible. This sounds easier said than done, but it is actually very easy to say. Here’s one simple way to clarify your intentions behind all of the romantic talk.
“I feel like we make each other’s best friends.” This explanation conveys a number of different meanings, and it is really up to you to determine which one is most appropriate for you and your partner. If you are saying this to another person who isn’t a best friend of yours, then it is obviously more directed toward platonic friendship – you are saying that you feel the two of you share some common goals and interests and that those interests guide where you go as a couple.
If, however, you’re saying this to a friend, then you’re really saying something more. First of all, you should clarify what the meaning is for you. Are you saying you feel like you have spent three months building a relationship with this person? Are you saying that you’ve fallen in love with this person and that you plan to stay with them for the long term? What do you want to get out of this? Do you hope to move ahead and marry this person, or is it more about establishing some kind of future connection?
You can also use these three statements in conjunction with each other in a more direct fashion. For example, instead of saying, “I love you and I wish you a very happy future and success in everything I do,” you can instead say, “I love you and I intend to spend the next three months with you.” Of course, if you’re saying this to a romantic partner, you’ll probably use words such as “long term and serious” and other similar terms. These aren’t emotional attachment phrases – they’re used to describe a specific goal.
The third little words, however, can provide the biggest clue into what your intended meaning is. If you say something like, “I love you and I want to spend the next three months with you,” then you’re saying that you have a trial balloon to see how this person responds to your romantic gestures. That means that your intention isn’t based on anything more substantial than a very friendly smile and a few ‘happy holidays.’ If the other person isn’t reciprocating in kind, your trial balloon is not serving any real purpose.
