When you are making love, your emotions are so high. Suddenly people begin to communicate more words and feelings than they did before. Do not be surprise if your lover, or her eyes, begin to well up a bit. This is all when both of you open up your guarded shield. This is also when reward and risk finally enters play.
The very nature of making love is one of risk and reward. When the physical connection ends there is no longer the guarantee that intimacy will follow. For women this does not mean the end of romance, but it does mean a potential for loneliness. On the other hand, if the physical connection is prolonged – especially if it is with a woman who has been hurt by rejection in the past – there is an emotional bond that is sure to follow. This emotional bond is what we refer to as “emotional intimacy.”
In the moments just before the orgasm, this is the most exciting time for a man. He is eager to please his partner, and she is keenly interested in giving him pleasure. This sense of desire for one another is only heightened when the woman decides to stay in the relationship and continue experiencing pleasure from the sexual act. In the making love stage there is an enormous amount of possibility for the release of powerful sexual feelings. However, because of the potential for loneliness this heightened erotic energy may be quickly squashed when the woman decides she has had enough and seeks a separation. The break may bring on feelings of dissatisfaction, which are common side effects of the excitement generated by the excitement of making love.
At this point the comfort zone of being together is recreated and a new connection begins. Although the feelings are still raw, the tension of wanting to be left behind is lessened. With increased feelings of closeness the possibility for physical closeness increases and you might find yourselves making love several nights a week. The physical closeness will bring with it feelings of safety and security. When these feelings begin to build a more permanent connection, the safety and security are no longer felt as a requirement for the relationship to continue. The emotional intimacy that was present during the early stages of the relationship has now been replaced by feelings of familiarity and even boredom.
When this process has been completed you are now in what is called the “comfort zone,” which is not a place of great comfort but a place of true joy and satisfaction. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying goodbye to the sexual pleasure you were experiencing. There is nothing wrong with experiencing the ultimate sexual pleasure from one another. It is during this transitional period where the real attachment develops and becomes a true relationship. This transition is not always easy but once completed there is nothing to stop a couple from saying goodbye to one another and starting a new life of togetherness, friendship and fulfillment.
In my view the greatest benefit that sexual relationships can provide is a sense of deep spiritual connection. The spiritual connection fostered by a fulfilling sexual connection provides for greater understanding and deeper bonding with each other. Sexually connected people become spiritually attached and share a common bond with one another. This bond does not only produce feelings of excitement and fulfillment but also creates an environment where the person entering into this sexual relationship is guided towards a higher state of consciousness. As this higher state of consciousness develops then the person experiencing this sexual connection begins to experience what I call a divine sexual awareness.
