Intimacy – Communicating Passion
Love is the feeling that accompanies a bond of two people with a common goal in mind – a relationship. Love encompasses a spectrum of positive and powerful emotional and psychological states, from the strongest, communal trait or beneficial behavior, to the most intimate sexual experience. When love is in session, it is considered to be the natural state of human relations; a state of well being. This has been referred to as the absence of lust or sexual desire. The absence of these instincts causes people to form deeper bonds with each other. Love is a universal experience shared by millions of human beings, with the exception of those species that have evolved away from the roots of love.
Love in its widest sense can be defined as the intense, lifelong bonding of two people with an intensity of emotional commitment or attachment that arises out of their primary, romantic love for another person. It is often described as our basic instincts, feelings and emotions. The term romance can apply to romantic relationships, pre-marital friendships, occasional attachments and even to intense and committed attachments that are based on true love. The term fondness can be used to describe feelings that are similar but less intense than romantic love.
Love is a powerful emotion that originates from our basic biological instincts for procreation and the nurturing of young children. Love provides an assortment of positive emotions that are designed to make life worth living. The most positive emotions of love are friendship, compassion, trust, and concern. These are the emotions that create a connection of security, safety and total trust that is a fundamental part of a deep intimacy. Love is the feeling that can give you the courage to follow your dreams, and the confidence to follow your values.
Most relationships that are established in the course of a romantic relationship, take place in the context of loving attachments. There is often a need for emotional security. In these cases, passion is not often involved. However, it may be necessary to release some degree of passion so as to preserve the emotional security that is required. A committed, loving relationship often involves intense feelings of passion.
How do you feel when your partner asks you how you feel? This is an important part of expressing love. Often, we communicate our love through words rather than actions. When we base our communication on our partner’s expressions of love, rather than on our own responses, we connect with them on an intuitive level much more readily than if we had communicated our response verbally or by touching hands.
Most of us have a limited amount of time during which we can express our most passionate feelings. On the other hand, our partners have much more intense feelings. How do you feel when your partner asks you how you feel? Creating an intimacy that is expressed through affection rather than words or physical touch can take the pressure off of you when you need to discover how you feel when your partner asks the question how you feel.