Whether you’re in love, on the hunt for it or just curious about what it means to feel loved, we can all agree that the word ‘love’ is a powerful one. It’s a feeling that transcends any language or definition, and one that entails many different emotions. However, despite its power and complexity, it’s also notoriously difficult to define.
The moment you fall in love, someone else’s thoughts and feelings begin to take up major real estate in your mind. Suddenly, you’re thinking about them in the shower, during meetings at work or even when you’re just sitting on the couch. And you start dreaming about them, replaying their words or looking at their photos over and over again. It’s that yearning for them to be in your life that’s a sign that you’re in love, and it’s something that everyone can relate to.
You’ve probably heard your fair share of advice about when and how to say “I love you” in a relationship, but what happens when the three little words become more of a ritual than a declaration of emotion? It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind of a relationship and let those three little words slip out without even noticing. In fact, according to some experts, switching up how you express your feelings can signal that you’re putting more thought and intention into nurturing your relationship.
In a world of instant gratification, it can be difficult to wait for the right moment to say “I love you.” But if you’re on the hunt for true love, the wait is well worth it. It’s important to gauge the temperature of your relationship before making the leap to love, explains psychotherapist and host of VH1’s Couples Therapy with Dr. Jenn Mann.
She recommends asking your partner open-ended questions about their goals and dreams, their favorite hobbies and places to vacation, and what they want from their relationship. This can help you understand what they value in a partner and show them that you’re committed to your relationship.
Another way to determine whether or not you’re in love is to look at how they treat you. A person who loves you will treat you with respect, kindness and care, and they’ll never take advantage of you. They’ll also make you feel supported and secure, so you can be yourself and be your best self in the relationship.
Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what love looks like for you and your partner. Embrace it, show it and don’t be afraid to say it—even if it feels too soon. Because love is a feeling that’s meant to be lived, not just savored.
