We’ve all heard that the word “love” can be interpreted in many ways, but it usually means the same thing: that you deeply care about someone and want the best for them. It is a deep emotional feeling that can be directed towards a variety of people—our friends, family, and even our pets. And it’s also a big commitment.
For some, it may be scary to say those three words because they fear that their partner may not feel the same way or might reject them in some other way. However, that’s not necessarily the case. In fact, it is often much better to express the love that you have for someone than to keep it a secret. It is a great way to show your partner that you are invested in the relationship, and it gives them an opportunity to tell you the same thing.
Some people wait too long to say they love their partner because they are worried that if they do, they will end up regretting it or that they will be pressured into a commitment they don’t feel comfortable with. Whether this is due to previous experiences or cultural factors, the result is that they may never feel ready to say those words. But, as psychologist Jenn Mann, psychotherapist and host of VH1’s Couples Therapy with Dr. Jenn, explains, saying those three magic words is not as hard as it seems.
In fact, it is entirely possible to say them in a variety of ways, including over the phone or on a video call. It’s also a good idea to send your partner a little note or relationship quotes throughout the day to let them know that you are thinking about them. Physical gestures can also be a big sign that you are in love. Back rubs, foot rubs, and holding their hand are all great ways to convey your love without putting too much pressure on them.
Finally, you can always show your love in simple ways, like sending them a thoughtful text or telling them to be safe at school or work. You can also give them a big hug or tell them that you love them while looking in their eyes. If you really love them, these kinds of things should come naturally, but if you have to force it, it might be a red flag.
In a recent study, researchers found that women were more likely than men to be the first to say “I love you” in romantic relationships. They argued that this could be because women prefer commitment over sex, but the studies didn’t explore transgender or nonbinary people, or include gay and lesbian couples. So, while it may be more common for women to say those words first, it is certainly not a rule. It is simply a matter of tuning into your individual partner and their unique expressions to determine when the time is right for you.
