One of the most important things that couples can do in their relationships is to learn how to make love. When two people are able to connect on a deep emotional level, it can lead to sexual intimacy that is truly extraordinary. There are many different ways that couples can create this kind of sexual connection, but one of the most important is to distinguish between making love and having sex.
Having sex is often just about fulfilling one’s individual needs (likely because of biological hardwiring), while making love is a spiritual experience. It’s a union of bodies and minds and hearts that goes beyond just satisfying carnal desires. In fact, the best love making can even be painful and heartbreaking at times. This is what makes true love so special.
If you want to know when you’re making love, pay attention to how your partner treats you during and after sexual intercourse. Does he kiss and caress you, or hold you in his arms? Does he talk about you and your day or is it just him and the pleasure of his own body? It’s important to distinguish between these two things because if you are merely having sex, it can leave you feeling unsatisfied.
Another sign of making love is when he takes his time with you, and pays close attention to your desires. Does he take his time to feel your erogenous zones and explore your sexual preferences? Does he gently touch your thighs, knees and feet and use his hands to gently stroke your bare skin? These are all signs that he is deeply connected to you and cares about you. It’s also a good idea to have some intimate conversations before and after sexual activity to make sure that your expectations are clear.
Other signs of making love are when he holds you during and after sexual intercourse. Does your tummy feel warm from his hand on your stomach? Does he hold you in his arms, or hug and cuddle you? These are all signs that you’re not just a sexual outlet for him, but that you’re his love object.
There are more reasons than just recreational pleasure to have sex, including a boost to your immune system, and the physical benefits of it (it burns calories, works several muscles groups and increases your heart rate). However, if you want to truly make love with your partner, it’s important to separate that from the mere gratification of your sexual desires. That’s when the magic really happens.
