Making love is not just a physical act, it’s a way of connecting with your partner. You’re sharing your deepest feelings and thoughts with them. It’s a powerful moment where your souls are intertwined with one another.
However, many people have trouble shifting from “having sex” to “love-making.” It may be because of unhelpful scripts they internalize about what love in bed should look like, based on movies, stereotypes, and porn. In addition, the level of emotional intimacy in a relationship also influences whether or not it’s possible to make love.
If you and your partner are not on the same emotional page, or if there is any kind of tension in your relationship, it’s unlikely that you will feel like you’re making love. That’s because making love requires both partners to be completely open and honest with each other about their needs in the bedroom.
You must be able to trust your partner enough to share all of yourself with them, even the most intimate parts of you. That’s why it’s important to find someone you are comfortable with and who makes you feel safe and loved.
A good indicator that you’re in the process of moving from having sex to making love is if you both have an understanding about your sexual needs and wants. If you’re both able to fulfill each other’s desires selflessly in the bedroom, it shows that you’re both into each other beyond just the physical.
It’s also important to know that making love doesn’t have to be super sweet and nice. In fact, it can be raunchy and dirty too! The most important thing is that you are both into each other and that you’re feeling close to each other. During sex, you’ll often hear your partner say romantic things and tell you how much they care about you. If you aren’t feeling that, then you’re probably just f*cking.
Most people have slept with other people at some point in their lives, whether it was a one-time hookup or a long-term relationship with a friend with benefits. It’s not necessarily a problem, but it doesn’t mean that you’re making love. That’s only possible with a person you have feelings for.
The key to making love is finding a person with whom you have a true connection and who can see the beauty in your unique body and mind. Once you find that person, the rest is easy. You’ll find that it doesn’t take long to transition from just sex to creating loving memories together.
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