Whether you have a soulmate or not, you likely want to be happy in life. Happiness looks different for everyone, though, and it’s not always easy to figure out what makes you tick. But there are a few research-backed steps you can take to start tiptoeing toward elation.
We’ve all heard the saying that “love is action.” And it’s true. In the early stages of a relationship, it can be relatively easy to show someone you love them by doing things like sending them a text message that reads, “love you to the moon and back.” But as time goes on, it can become harder to continue to demonstrate your feelings in ways that are meaningful for your partner.
You may have noticed that there are a lot of different opinions about what it means to show love to someone. Some people think that it is only about sex and other physical acts, while others feel that showing love is also about taking care of their needs and being there for them when they need support. Still others believe that showing love is also about showing gratitude and expressing it in various ways, such as by writing them a letter or telling them why you appreciate them.
Whatever your definition of love, it is clear that it is a powerful emotion. Studies using functional MRI show that primitive neural systems involved in drive, reward recognition and euphoria are activated when you look at your loved one’s face or think loving thoughts. This puts romantic love in the same category as survival systems such as those that make us hungry or thirsty.
Love can also affect your health, with a surge in the stress hormone cortisol and a drop in serotonin causing feelings of obsession and cravings. And the more intense the feelings of love, the higher your blood pressure will be.
For many of us, however, the most important thing about love is that it is a choice. Choosing to love someone and to show them that you are in love with them requires commitment, sacrifice and patience. But it is also a wonderful feeling that can bring you happiness and fulfillment in your relationships.
So this Valentine’s Day, don’t be afraid to say I love you and mean it. And remember that the best way to show someone you love them is by spending time with them and doing things they enjoy. Whether it’s a dinner date, a walk in the park or a text message that says, “love you to the moon and beyond.” Whatever your definition of love, it is a wonderful feeling that can bring you happiness in your relationships.
