Unlike having sex, which is more about getting or giving sexual pleasure, making love is all about the connection with your partner on an emotional level. It also requires a certain tenderness (even if your love making is more on the rough side!) and consideration for your partner’s needs.
Love making is a sacred time for two people to spend together and can only be enjoyed if the environment is right for it. A quickie in a public bathroom isn’t going to work and neither will trying to make love with children running around or roommates around. You need a place that is private, warm and inviting. Some suggest lighting candles, using a scented body oil, burning incense or playing soft music to create an intimate atmosphere. Other couples may enjoy a luxurious hotel room for the night if they want to take it up a notch.
If your man wants to make love to you again and again, this is a sign that you are on the same page in terms of what your relationship means to both of you. This type of commitment takes more than just having sex and is one of the most important aspects of any relationship, especially in marriage.
A good way to test whether your man is interested in more than just having sex with you is to see how he responds to pillow talk. This is a great way to get to know each other beyond your physical and emotional intimacy, which will help strengthen your bond and deepen your relationship.
If he’s talking to you about what he likes in bed or tells you how much he wants you, this is a sign that he is looking for more than just sex with you. He’s likely also in a better mood than he would be if he just wanted to have sex and is showing this by how he interacts with you between the sheets.
Kissing is another big indicator that your man is interested in more than just having physical sex with you. He’s probably more likely to kiss you from head to toe and show love to every part of your body if he is making love to you.
It’s important to remember that “making love” is a process, not a destination. Increasing how often you and your spouse make love will require both of you to make it a priority. If you don’t want to make it a priority, you’ll have a hard time hitting those magic numbers between the sheets. Remember all the emotional and physical benefits of love making, and make it a priority in your relationship. You’ll both be glad you did!