Making love is the most unifying, healing, restorative and yes, pleasurable experience in any relationship. It is the bonding of two souls in a way that brings them closer together emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It is a beautiful thing that shouldn’t be taken lightly or abused.
Sadly, this special bonding experience doesn’t get enough attention in our society. Instead, sex and love making often receive too much attention in a shaming and condemning kind of way. This leaves this critical part of any strong and lasting relationship a mystery to many people and separates couples when it is meant to unite them.
There are a few key characteristics to look for in a partner who loves to make love. One of the most important things is that he will be fully present during sex. This means that he will talk to you, touch you on the shoulder or cheek, hold your hand and kiss you during sex. He will also maintain eye contact during sex, which shows that he cares deeply for you and is committed to the intimacy of the moment.
If he loves to make love, he will be up for trying new sexual experiences and positions in bed with you. He will be open to exploring his and your sexual desires and fantasies together to deepen the emotional connection in your partnership. He will tell you romantic and affirming things during sex and show that he cares for your needs in the bedroom by asking what you like and do not like. He will be open to trying sex toys as well.
He will take his time to get undressed and into position. He will be patient with you during sex and allow you to take your time getting comfortable in a variety of positions. He will be supportive during sex by allowing you to moan and let out your needs in your own way. He will also help to initiate oral sex by offering you a wet mouth and licking your lips for you.
Making love is a more intimate process than having sex. It is a drawn out affair that involves intimate foreplay, touch and eye contact. It is also a very personal thing that can be private, or shared depending on the couple and their preference. In addition, making love is a ritual that can be repeated daily or as needed to bring the two partners closer emotionally and mentally. Having sex on occasion is not a bad thing, but expecting it to do the job of making love in a relationship is dangerous and unrealistic. Having sex can be great for meeting biological needs or in a polyamourous relationship, but it doesn’t have the same emotional and mental benefits as making love. This is why it is crucial to build affection outside of the bedroom and talk about your feelings, wants and needs in a loving manner. This will improve your sex life dramatically and help you to better understand your partner’s needs in the bedroom.
