Having sex and making love are two of the most intimate acts that a person can perform. They both involve a physical connection to someone you care about, but they differ in their level of intimacy and emotional involvement. The way that people use these terms often hints at their differences. Having sex is more about the sexual interaction itself, while making love is about the deeper emotions and bond that develop between loving lovers.
A man who loves you will treat you with respect in and out of the bedroom. He will respect your boundaries and never pressure you into doing anything that you don’t want to do. He will listen to your needs and concerns, and work hard to make you happy and satisfied during lovemaking. He will also give you a safe space where you can enjoy the intimacy you share together.
He will explore your erogenous zones and find out what makes you tick. He will stroke your back and shoulder to let you know he wants to please you, and he will gently push on you in the right places to bring out the fullness of your pleasure. He will play with your hair, smelling it like sweet roses and spices to make you feel even more sensual and aroused. He will talk to you and open up in bed, sharing personal details that create a deep sense of trust and commitment between the two of you.
The first time he kisses you, he will be thinking about ways to make you happy and satisfied during lovemaking. You will both be excited and giddy, and you will take turns stroking each other with your hands. You may stroke the head of his penis and go down to his orgasm zone, letting him feel the sensation of your lips on his. You may also brush against his tits or breasts, and you can try a combination of hand and oral pleasure for him. You can also tie him up to show him you have control over the situation, and he will be pleased by this.
During orgasm, you will enter a completely different state of being and almost cease to exist. You aren’t Jane and Jim, or Susan and Bob; you’re on a totally different plane, experiencing something so intense that Freud called it “the little death.”
To keep the magic alive in a long-term relationship, couples can try out new experiences and activities, such as exploring fantasies, role playing, and sensual massages. They can also add in a few surprises, such as a romantic dinner or a surprise date. These things will help keep the passion and the spark alive, making your relationship stronger and longer-lasting. So if you’re ready to get started, download Relish today! Get full access to expert relationship coaches, therapist approved quizzes and more. Try it out free for a week.
