In the beginning stages of a relationship, sexual intercourse can be an exciting and intimate experience. Often, it marks a new level of physical and emotional intimacy between a man and a woman. However, many people fail to distinguish between making love and having sex. Those who do make the distinction may find themselves wondering, “What’s the difference?”
Traditionally, making love refers to the use of loving gestures during courtship or sex. This is different than simply having sex because it’s considered more romantic and respectful. Eventually, the term made its way into our modern language and has come to mean any sexual activity that is done with someone you love and respect. Some people, particularly those who are religious or spiritual, use the phrase as a more euphemistic alternative to having sex.
If you’re interested in creating a sensual environment that is conducive to love-making, there are some steps you can take to set the stage. A romantic atmosphere will help you both feel more relaxed and open to each other, and it can increase the likelihood of a pleasurable sexual experience. A warm, comfortable room that is free of distractions like televisions and loud music is ideal. You can also burn a few scented candles to create a sensual and intimate mood.
Another way to ensure that you’re engaging in love-making is to communicate what romance means to you and your partner. Do you enjoy cuddling, kissing, and whispering sweet nothings in their ear? Do you want to take your time and savor each touch, or do you prefer a more intense experience? Having a discussion about what you each want from sex can help make your next time together even more enjoyable.
The final step is to make sure that you’re not taking things too fast. This can be challenging if you’re both on edge or eager to get down to business, but it’s important to focus on the journey rather than just the destination. Slow down and savor each moment—from the foreplay to the sexual act itself. Take the time to gaze into their eyes, gently stroke their hair or back, or tousle their tresses.
Make the most of your time together by prioritizing your relationship and staying committed to it. Then you can truly make love every day, and your relationship will be something to cherish forever.
No one enters into a relationship thinking that it will end, but love is fragile and unpredictable. It’s not unusual for a couple to fall out of love or to lose interest in each other over time. Fortunately, decades of research have shown that there are certain habits that can help a relationship thrive and last a lifetime.
American psychologist and relationship counselor John Gottman has credited several factors to healthy long-term relationships, including trust, communication, and mutual priorities. However, he has found that a key factor is being open to meeting someone who doesn’t fit your typical type.
