Many couples struggle with what makes love and how to go about creating a connection through sexual intimacy. While sex can be an amazing way to connect, you need to have an emotional connection first before you can truly lean into it during love making. The differences between having sex and making love are subtle, but important. In this article, we’ll showcase the major characteristics of each that can help you figure out what your needs are in a relationship and how to achieve those through sexual engagements.
If you want to know what’s the difference between having sex and making love, start by observing how your partner interacts with you in the bedroom. He isn’t just looking to orgasm, but also trying to connect with you through each act of sex. For example, he’ll be more likely to touch you on your shoulder or thigh and kiss your neck and lips. He may even ask you what you enjoy, as he wants to create a pleasurable experience for both of you. You’ll likely hear them say “I love you” during and after sex, as well as cuddle up with you afterwards.
Another major characteristic of making love is that he’ll be sensitive to your feelings, especially in the beginning of sex. During the foreplay, he’ll probably rub your back or legs, hold your hands or thigh, and kiss you softly. He’ll focus on pleasing you, and he may slow down the pace of sexual acts so that each one is special. If he’s more interested in the physical pleasure of sex, he may not care as much about your feelings and could easily turn it into a purely mechanical experience.
Lastly, when you make love, he will respect your boundaries. If you tell him to stop before the climax, he’ll listen. If you’re not in the mood for sex, he’ll respect that as well. He’ll never push you to have sex when you’re not comfortable with it. If you feel like he’s not respecting your boundaries, it’s time to rethink your relationship.
It’s true that it’s easier for couples in love to make love than those who are just sex partners. However, you can have meaningful sex with someone who is not in love with you and still create an emotional connection. That’s why it’s so important to have healthy boundaries in relationships of all kinds, including sexual ones.
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