Having sex is a physical act – no more, no less. It can be pretty rushed and basic, especially in the beginning of a relationship where you both are just figuring things out, or it can be very romantic with candles and sexy lingerie and wine. But making love is something different – it’s a ritual of emotional intimacy, one that’s often a milestone in a couple’s relationship.
It can be hard to make love when you have little ones running around or roommates sleeping in the same bed as you. So you may want to clear out the space in your home and hire a babysitter, or at least turn off any distracting lights and devices so you can both give each other your undivided attention.
You can also create the right mood for making love with kissing and tender touching, such as massages or stroking. Often, the foreplay is more important than the intercourse itself, so focus on that. For example, you could try a tantric technique known as eye gazing, where you both sit up in the same spot and stare into each other’s eyes for a few minutes. This is a powerful way to show your partner that you are completely present and deeply connected with them, which can lead to an even more intense sexual experience.
During sex, you can increase the pleasure by using various sex positions, including the missionary position, coital alignment technique or (CAT position), and spooning. These positions will put your bodies in close contact and allow you to explore each other’s erogenous zones in ways that would be difficult or impossible in other sex positions.
When you’re both doing your best to please each other, it can lead to earth-shattering orgasms and deep satisfaction with one another. And don’t forget the importance of laughing during or after sex – it’s a great way to connect with your partner and communicate how much you enjoy being together.
Making love involves a lot of care and consideration for your partner’s needs as well as your own, which makes it more intimate than just having sex. It’s about giving each other your full attention and sharing a sensual, emotional and bonding experience that’s bigger than just a simple physical act.
Whether you’re an expert in making love or have never experienced it before, these techniques can help you take your relationship to the next level. So don’t wait for a special occasion, or just a night alone – make the most of any opportunity to share some intimate time with the person you love. They’ll appreciate your efforts and be more likely to reciprocate. Make it a regular ritual in your bedroom, and you’ll find that not only does it feel good physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. You’ll feel happier and more secure in your relationship, no matter what else happens in the future. After all, what’s not to love?